The destruction of shame

May 3, 2018

The 2018 Australian and New Zealand Addiction Conference will be held this month over Monday 28 and Tuesday 29 May with optional workshops on Wednesday 30 May at the QT Gold Coast.

Mrs Kate Seselja, Founder at The Hope Project joins us at the Conference to discuss ‘The destruction of shame’.


Our relationship with the vernacular used in addiction and mental health matters.

World Health Organisation lists mental health as the highest issue of concern in our modern cultures worldwide, this problem impacts so many. When we have more knowledge than ever before about health and wellbeing, why has it come to this?

Our failure to understand the impacts of shame.

Neuroscience has proven the impacts of cognitive function on a person in an emotional state, however we have failed to see the collective damage of living in cultures promoting perfection whilst public shaming, blaming and judgement are rife.

The vernacular used by society re addiction and mental health is very negative and damaging. The AA mentality and disorder diagnosis culture breeds hopelessness and fuels shame. We as a society have moved so far away for our ability to see someone else’s pain because we cannot even recognise or see our own.

We keep normalising and allowing harmful impacts to our wellbeing in an effort to avoid discomfort, the discomfort of growth.

Authenticity and Hope are the antidotes to shame and fear. In the talks I have given across Australia and Overseas one thing is clear. Speaking vulnerably about my experience with struggle and focusing on the growth and learning allows for others to do the same. The mental freedom from being connected to yourself is powerful, the liberation of shame and oppression is vital in a society that can tackle this global epidemic head on and embrace the freedom of being human on the other side.

Embracing positive vernacular like the tool AWAKE, helps people self regulate and correct. This bridges the gap between the vast oceans of knowledge re health and wellbeing we have to offer our modern world and creating practical sustainable human beings.

Kate Seselja is using the lived experience to create change. Her 12 year struggle with gambling addiction to Poker Machines almost took her life. The passionate mum of 6 has turned her experience into a mission to educate, inspire and create change in the areas of advocacy in gambling reform and Founding The Hope Project to tackle proactive prevention of all struggles through programs focusing on emotional intelligence and resilience skill building. The Hope Project partners with UNAA to promote SDG#3 Good health and well being, Kate is also a World Kindness Australia Goodwill Ambassador and TEDx Speaker.

For more information on the upcoming 2018 Australian and New Zealand Addiction Conference please visit the conference website.




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